Deborah Stenton’s The Good, The Bad, The Relationship is not only aimed at helping to promote and resolve issues within a current relationship but is also a useful tool for self reflection, allowing a reader to critically assess their own attitudes, hold ups, and reasons for past relationship failures and acknowledge how they contributed and take steps to ensure they don’t self-sabotage, not only themselves but any of their relationships. It builds a foundation of understanding that can be applied to future relationships, or help save failing ones. It gives the reader power to take responsibility and work towards a better them. Best of all, with an occasional word tweak the stages and advice can be moulded to encompass any type of relationship, not just a romantic one, in fact the author openly encourages it to be used this way. The presentation of this book makes it an easy accessible reference, it explains possible feelings and observations, asks questions, and makes suggestions. By using this guide it becomes easy to reflect, and acknowledge our own failings, and move away from laying blame and other unprogressive responses and attitudes. Deborah Stenton makes a lot of sense, and I can see this work making a difference to those who find themselves reading it.